Exotic Pole Dance. I’m afraid to start.

We all have different upbringing and different standards of decency. Exotic pole dancing always causes conflicting feelings in some people. We are used to it, but how can we start to explain dancing a sensual dance to someone who is surrounded by the opinion that only a fallen women can wear these terrible shoes, not to mention men.

If you don’t like exotic pole dance at all, that’s okay. From time to time you may watch others who do exotic dancing, but you think that this is not for you, then we’ll talk.

Let’s look at the main fears. There are two of them.
The first one. I will not succeed. I will look awkward, clumsy, I will move terribly ugly, they will laugh at me, and I will shut myself up in my complexes even more.

The second one. This is not appropriate. Any self-respecting woman does not dance like this. It is vulgar and salaciously. If anyone finds out I am doing this, it will be a shame.

Let’s start with the first one. Almost no one succeeds immediately, just like learning to drive a car. But after some practice, it starts to work out.

You need a good teacher and the right sequence. Start with a base, coordination, and connection with your body. This is generally the core of all the basics and the most useful thing you can do for yourself. If you learn to feel and control every single part of your body, coordinate your motions, and adjust the speed and amplitude of your movements, your body will become yours.

You are not an accidental guest in this body! It is yours, so control it. Do not become its prisoner. Yes, at first it will not be easy, but if you start with the basics, and build your technique on that foundation, then you will succeed. A good coach will help you design the base in an accessible presentation and find a comfortable sequence that fits your style. Then you will nail it and each small success will inspire you to learn more complex moves.

Let’s move on to the second problem. It is actually completely in your head, just like the first one, but let’s figure it out. All the same, for some reason you have been watching exotic videos. If the topic of exotic dancing is completely uninteresting to you, then it is not clear why you are reading this.

If there is an interest in some corner of your consciousness, but on top of it lies a bunch of fears and social prohibitions, then here you are. What are the reasons you are watching these dissolute videos, why? If it is so vulgar, why are you watching it? Maybe it’s not that you don’t like it, but it doesn’t correspond to the norms you follow.

Come from the other side and imagine you just found out your close friend or your sister is doing exotic pole dancing. Will you blame her? Will you decide that she is a fallen woman? If so, public approval is more important to you than the person you love, whose moral qualities you know.

If you accept this without judgement, then why do you think that someone will judge you? And if someone else will, then this person appreciates and knows you less than the norms of society. Do you really want to be a part of this system?

In general, I don’t understand how exotic pole dance can be considered salacious by the same people who consider all the music videos that are full of sexual content normal, as well as the lyrics, and all this culture that attracts hundreds of millions of admirers. But stereotypes are an interesting thing.

One of the most beautiful wonders of the pole dance community is acceptance and support. You can be yourself, try new things, experiment, explore and be sure that you will be understood and not condemned.

Author @kiranoire